Most relationships aren't perfect. Each person brings his or her own ideas, values, opinions and personal history into a relationship. Although differences don't necessarily mean your relationship is bound for conflict, many couples do experience problems at one time or another which can be improved with counseling.
Making the decision to go to counseling can be tough; however, couples counseling can help you cope better with a troubled relationship and find ways to improve it rather than trying to ignore the problems or hoping they get better on their own.
Couples therapy helps couples understand and resolve conflicts in an effort to improve their relationship. Couples therapy gives couples the tools they need to communicate better, negotiate differences, problem solve and even argue in a healthier way.
What is couples therapy like?
Your therapist will likely ask questions about your relationship as a whole, not just the areas that you feel need to be worked on, as well as your respective relationship histories. Your answers establish a basis for your collective communication styles and your previous relationship experiences that will help as you work on your current situation.
Your therapist will be an impartial mediator that will help you enhance your awareness of your role and interactions in therelationship. The idea is to help you both be more effective in bringing about mutual satisfaction in your relationship.
As with other therapy modalities, full disclosure is an essential part of couples therapy and your therapist won't be able to help without it.
A Happy Wife is a Happy Life
- Are you confused and insecure about your marriage and about your man?
- Do you wish that he would just listen to you and "get you"?
- Is he constantly trying to fix problems instead of validate your feelings?
- Do you feel like the closer you try to get to him, the further he seems to push away?
It may not be your fault.
For the men that I work with, it is really difficult for them to admit that there is a problem going on in their marriages, let alone seek out a counselor to get help. Many times, their caring wives and girlfriends know there is a problem going on, but can't convince their partner to seek counseling. This can be frustrating for women who fear that without counseling, the relationship will drift away.
Your partner doesn't want to come in, so why don't you come in? I will help translate your partner for you. I want to empower you to get the relationship that you want. Together, we'll learn how to develop more trust, intimacy and connection with your partner.
Women often end up feeling disappointed and let down because their guy doesn't match up to their fantasy, which is to have a man automatically know what they want and need. It's a myth.
Men and women often communicate differently, and my role is to help you to communicate your feelings and needs in a way that your boyfriend or husband "hears" you. By communicating more effectively, you may find that your willing boyfriend or husband wants to meet your needs.
I know that you want your guy to stop doing the bad behaviors that make your relationship worse, and want him to start with new behaviors that create a more satisfying relationship.
I also work with women to:
- discover what their needs are, and get them met
- feel good about themselves
- get angry effectively
- to stop "people pleasing" and say 'no'
Call me today, and we can chat about how to get you happy again, whether that's in your relationship or in your life.
(215) 908-8135 Philadelphia (856) 358-2107 South Jersey
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About Emily Abeledo-Adams
Emily and Marc Adams have been married for 15 years and have two children ages 14 and 3. Emily earned her Master's Degree in Social Work from the University of Southern California and became a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in 2001. In 2007 she became a Licensed Funeral Director, currently working with her husband at their family business, Adams Funeral Home in Salem County, NJ.